A Candid Talk About Intimacy

A Candid Talk About Intimacy

Intimacy is a hot topic in any relationship. It is also a process. It is not stagnant. In fact, any kind of stagnation in a relationship kills intimacy. I am a firm believer that intimacy is one of the major elements that keeps a relationship thriving. Intimacy goes beyond physical and sexual connection. Let’s face it. Men think about sex much more than women. When intimacy comes to mind, most people think about sex. Sex and intimacy are two different things, although often used interchangeably. Do not get me wrong, sex is a huge part in a relationship! However, intimacy is much more than that. I am taking it a step further to introduce you to other forms of intimacy. In fact, if you are able to develop other intimacy skills needed, I am confident your sexual frequency will also increase.

Intimacy: Intimacy is about knowing someone deeply and being able to be completely free in that person’s presence.

Here are a few different forms of intimacy:

Sexual: When a couple’s experiences a connection that goes beyond the basic physical act of sex.

Physical: When a couple share a loving touch. Be it holding hands, a hug, or a kiss we humans were designed to want to be touched. Touch can communicate acceptance and love, a closeness that only the two of you have based on your shared experiences.

Emotional: When a couple can comfortably share their feelings with each other or when they empathize with the feelings of each other.

Spiritual: When a couple share religious/spiritual beliefs and practices. This can be as simple as going to a place of worship together, or discussing spiritual issues as a couple. Ultimately, your life experiences, within the foundation of your shared faith, will create and deepen your spiritual intimacy.

EXTRA TIP: Having more than one form of intimacy is the engine that makes a relationship sing! Strive to have multiple, not just one.

Did you know there were so many different forms of intimacy??? Let me know what you think by commenting below…..BE BLESSED!


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  • Amanda Walters Reply

    Love your blog Kiaundra on how you broke down all the different areas of where intimacy can be established and built. It is a much needed topic of discussion. Here is another topic idea I’m curious about that piggybacks off intimacy. Open phone and other electronic passwords, openness in courting, dating and marriage relationships removing secrecy. Establishing healthy boundaries but also building strong foundation of trust without insecurity or jealousy. How to talk to your partner about these things with out being controlling or restricting them.

    12/05/2016 at 1:28 pm
    • Kiaundra Jackson Reply

      Thank you so much for your comments. I think those are great topics and I will add them to my list of topics to address in the future. My favorite of the ones you mentioned is the “open phone and other electronic passwords.” With social media having so much influence in our lives, I am sure many couples have issues with it.

      12/05/2016 at 1:57 pm
    • Tamora Johnson Reply

      This is a great topic that most do not consider important. The majority of us are raised to believe intimacy to be in one compartment of life. It’s different for everyone. One may consider it to be physical, while others rely on spiritual, emotional, or sexual pleasures to validate thier intimacy in their relationships. Thank you for shedding light on the differences. I personally believe that having all four in a marriage is a complete “intimacy package deal”. Being able to balance the four and knowing when the proper time is to use them speaks volumes about a couple. It says that the two have continued to be students of eachother, and willing to use the tools that they have to make the marriage RISE to the next level by sitting selfish desires aside and focusing on what’s best for the marriage.

      12/06/2016 at 1:38 pm

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